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Effective Communication is key in relationships.Let’s discuss our challenges in this area and see how we can improve.Some cultures have hash Communication tendencies that may turn-off the intended receivers of the message.This happens in marriages, parenting, workplace, social activities and more.We can do better.Let’s explore how.
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Hello Everybody. Welcome to “Let’s Talk about Family”,our monthly forum for reflecting on, and reassessing our roles and commitment to our various families.
Our May episode (2018 Mother’s Day Message),was a mandate to all women to ignite and nurture the relationships between children and fathers; that the best gift a mom can give her kids is the love of their dad.Please go back to our replays and listen to this message that was well received and is already making a difference in our families.
Our 2018 Fathers’ Day Message on Friday, June 1st is an appeal to men for damage control.Sexual Irresponsibility is destroying our families and is implicated in most divorces.
Please join us, listen at our websites below or call in 1-646-787-8518 at our usual time, (6.30pm ET every first Friday of the month). You can catch the Show at drmotherlove.com or amaracares.wordpress.com. Thank you.
In this episode, we will acknowledge the vital roles women are playing in families and societies all over the world. We will also give them a special assignment to do more in one area of family life that is currently suffering: the relationship between fathers and their children and it has a lot to do with how their mothers treat and present their fathers to them.
Join us and listen to this coming Episode. You will be gratefully amazed at the power of this Love that women can totally nurture and control in the family and beyond. If you miss it, catch the replay at amaracares.wordpress.com or at http://www.Drmotherlove.com.
See you all then.
–Dr. Mother Love
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Hello my great people.
Please join us as we continue to discuss the trending venting and ranting about marriage as seen in the Social Media.
Young people are expressing their fears and frustrations about marriage. No wonder these days, most eligible bachelors are reluctant to commit and settle down. We can no longer ignore this red flag about the future of our cherished institution called Marriage.
Let’s keep exposing the problems until we find solutions. Join us on this first Friday, April 6, 2018 at 6.30pm ET
Dr. Mother Love
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Today’s episode is the first since we officially made this show a monthly affair to be recorded on the first Friday of every month. I call it our “First Friday Reflections on Family Matters”. This is because family really matters to all of us, therefore it is a good idea to start each month’s weekend on a clear slate totally resolved to renew our commitment to family.
I had planned to continue our discussion on how our cultures impact our families, but I decided to put that topic on hold so as to address an emergency: A trending attack on marriage from all angles. Do you see what I see these days on social media? A growing concern or phobia people are expressing about marriage! As a passionate coach in relationship matters, I recognize this concern and take it seriously. I will summarize some of these concerns and throw them open for discussion with the hope of finding some solutions with the help of your feedback. If we do not address these issues, the institution of marriage may be history.
So, do not miss this show. Be part of this noble cause of helping every family to be stable, safe, sane and successful. Keep listening, check the replays and follow us at drmotherlove.com or https://amaracares.wordpress.com/ and leave us a comment.
Dr. Mother Love
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Gender Selection has been a quest for couples as far back as recorded history allows and this has been a controversial curiosity from prehistoric times. Our present era of unstoppable advancement in technology has opened platforms for exciting things happening in the arena of Pre-selection of baby’s sex before conception.
Our last show took us to this area because of a couple’s marital discord as a result of the absence of a male child in a family of five. I had promised to talk more about how to choose the sex of a baby by natural methods in contrast to the numerous artificial methods offered by modern technology. I later realized that delving into this loaded area will take us off track and away from our focus on family stability, sanity and success. I therefore decided to continue our discussion on family matters while privately working with this couple to achieve their goal of saving their marriage, and loving and appreciating their daughters as well as getting a baby boy (if possible).
Join us as we continue to expose the challenges disrupting our peace and harmony in families, one problem at a time. We will still be analyzing the role of women in the family. Try not to miss it, but if you cannot join us at this time, listen to the replay at your convenience at https://amaracares.wordpress.com/blog/
Dr. Mother Love
Did you miss the last episode of Let’s Talk About Family? Catch it now! http://www.blogtalkradio.com/doctormotherlove/2017/08/30/dr-mother-love-on-love-lets-talk-about-family-continued
Dr. Mother Love
As we keep analyzing manhood and man’s role in the family, I would like to echo Eric Metaxas’s view about manhood. He is a Christian biographer and his two important questions are:
- “What is a man?
- “What makes a great man?”
His answers relate to our subject matter: man’s role in the family. His views are are reflected in this discussion.
As many people would agree, the very concept of manhood has changed and fallen into confusion in the last few decades. I was raised with a notion of man as next to God in the family hierarchy, but these days, that notion seems questionable, leaving me more confused, disappointed and somehow skeptical. I wonder whether I was brainwashed about manhood and manliness. No matter how confused, I refuse to give up on my values and beliefs about men, without a fight to defend, justify, or at least critically analyze them to an extent. Many people who know me well (especially my fellow women), wonder why I am so stuck with trying to justify men’s actions even when those actions make no sense.
My explanation has always been that men by nature are “innocently” clueless about relationship matters and must therefore be given some benefit of the doubt, and I do not rush into their condemnation. That is why one of my passions in life is to get the trust of men so they can open up and get help.
Having given my reasoning about loving men, let me continue my take on men and family. So what is it about men that was instilled in me as a child? In addition to being providers, I was assured that men use their toughness, strength and thick build (naturally big, huge and muscular), to protect the weak. In my generation, women never went to war or participated in tough physical activities, sports, or jobs, and I could understand why. Men were always tough and strong but never bullies who hurt people in any way.
In my opinion, these qualities make men great, desirable and attractive. Their presence anywhere, especially in the family arena, should be reassuring and representative of God’s presence to watch over His creation. Is this the feeling of most family members about the men in their lives? I just wonder especially with the escalating trend of domestic violence! If not, why not, and how can we restore that secured feeling of “blessed assurance”? Could this missing factor be the root of the current decadence in family and society at large?
Having men as role models and heroes has always been important historically until very recently (unfortunately). Why does a man not give up his family name, while in most cultures, a woman does and assumes her man’s name instead? Who wants to assume the name of a man who has negative impact on family and society? Men’s lives should be great and worthy of emulation, and should be a vital way of helping a new generation know what it should be aiming at. Somehow this concept has changed in recent years. What really happened? What went wrong? Where have all our good men gone, and if they are still around (as I am sure they are), why are they so silent and ineffective in positively influencing the family and society as we expect?
Part of what happened is that we have adopted the idea, ( especially in the civilized world), that no one is really in a position to say what’s right or wrong. So we adopt the “less affair” attitude of “who am I to judge others?” Even when vices like Infidelity and Related Sins (I&RS), are destroying the family and society, we look away! We have become suspicious of authority and leaders in our quest for freedom and advancement. We seem to have lost confidence (and sometimes justifiably so), in governance, even at the family level. We are therefore suffering the resulting consequences and challenges of personal and societal irresponsibility. We have been programmed in taking pleasure more in focusing on the negative aspects and weaknesses of our leaders at all levels, starting with the man’s leadership of his family. No wonder we seem to have little or no patience and no confidence in whatever he does or how much he contributes to his family. Instead of gratitude and encouragement, most of us (through our words, actions and omissions), tend to weaken the man’s zeal and ego, rendering him even less effective as a role model for his children. In some cases, we are justified, but I feel that we should give men more of a chance, help, and benefit of the doubt, instead of being quick to condemn them. In such situations, most men give up and flee. This creates a vacuum and virtuous cycle in generations to come. I am not supporting irresponsible behavior but rather pleading for patience with them as we find solutions.
So the very idea of legitimate authority has been damaged at all levels starting from the family. We have gone from the extreme of being naive to the other extreme of being cynical. At the family level, we could say that we have gone all the way from foolishly accepting all man’s authority to foolishly rejecting it totally, like a person who was so wounded or betrayed by a member of the opposite sex that he no longer trusts anyone of that sex. This is a bad place to end up, and in our culture we are paying a harsh price or it in various ways ranging from dysfunction in the family to decay in the society.
People still need heroes and role models. There are still many lives that are good examples and we need to seek them out and use them to restore and strengthen the weakened fabrics of family and global society. This is the goal of these posts. I am still optimistic that we can find more of such good men who will inspire our future generations to emulate them. This is the true love of our human society.
In the next episode, we will define what real manhood is and explore how to instill these positive and vital values in young men for the sake of family and society. Please do not miss the next episode.
Dr. Mother Love
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Dr. Mother Love
I’m proud to announce my next blog talk radio show, “Let’s Talk about Family”, will be tomorrow, 2/22/17 at 1:30 PM PST, 4:30 PM EST
Here is the link to tune in:
Dr. Mother Love